6 years old masturbates

[Georgia St]

So I found my six years old boy masturbating yesterday night and I can’t find peace since then. I thought the he was going to do it and I accepted this fact, but I never thought that I’m going to see him doing this at this age. We (with his father), asked him how he learned it or where he saw someone doing this, he said that he figured it out by himself. We told him that what he is doing isn’t good and he shouldn’t do it anymore, but I understand that if he liked it, he won’t listen us and will do it. We don’t want to press him and we talked gentle trying not to stress him out. I feel like I’m a bad parent because I don’t know what to do – I just wasn’t expecting it. Should we seek a psychiatrist help? Is this normal for a children in his age to masturbate???????

 

[bucknuts]

that is deff not normal, you should talk to a doctor, a psychologyst. May be he is discovering his body, but that normally happens at 2, and not like that. I would take my child to a schrink and see what to do next in order to keep his childhood safe. Take care

 

[HolyHolly]

Well, first of all I need to say that it is perfectly fine for him at this age to start figuring out the things. those that are good, those that are bad and so on. I’m pretty sure that at this age he accidentally found out that this is pretty good down there. while doing bath, while pissing, while whatever. They discover. They are young. My son started to do it at age of 4. I’m sure he accidentally found it out. Some children discover it at 4, some at 6 some at 10 and some at 14. It doesn’t matter. It is all by accident. After all, that’s not anything bad about that. you should only explain him what it means, that this is something that nobody should see. When my son started doing it I went to his doctor asking for him because it was my first baby. The doc said that this is perfectly normal. That is why you should not feel guilty or a bad mother. How can somebody prevent this? talk with him when he’s 2 years old that he should not touch his penis? Just tell him to lock himself in his room if he’s willing to do so, to do it privately and alone. Not so show others this thing and not to talk about anybody with this. explain why, that this is not a public thing. you should explain that the feeling that he is having, I mean that he wants to touch himself, it is fine, everybody does that. all boys do it. why would you want to make your baby feel guilty about that? he can do that because he’s a man after all. just he needs to do it in privacy because there are some parts that he needs to see, touch and use only by himself. I don’t agree with the other user that this is not normal. This is perfectly normal. All men does it. he is enjoying it. what I do recommend you is to show him to a doctor because I know that there are some cases when boys starts to do it because they have some injury down there, or a bug bite, or something is wrong. But they are ashamed of telling you that. trying to fix their problem, they found out about masturbation. There’s nothing to be ashamed and there’s nothing to be worried unless he does it with somebody else, or in front of somebody else.

 

[HaNNaH]

No, this is not right and I don’t understand how can somebody can say that this is fine. he is only 6 years, how the heck this thing can be called normal?? Even perfectly normal. Then go and give him a cigarette, some alcohol and let him live his life, because he’s a “man” and he lives his life. do you even realize what are you talking about? How can you look at a 6 years old boy masturbating and you call that normal. That’s NOT normal! You should act about that, maybe the presence of some other prevented boy in your neighborhood has had an influence, maybe he found porn, maybe he have been showed this by some other children, but regardless of the reason, you should talk to him and explain that this is not what an 6 years old should do. the sexual actions of any kind at this very young age are totally uncalled for!! children of his age should be interested in running bikes, in reading, in playing with other kids in “normal” games, in running outside, in watching tom & jerry. Definitely not watching porn. Nowadays technologies ruins it all. masturbation is a stress reliever method, he is stressed? He is 6. And that’s awful. His psychological state is being ruined, and if he has access to porn then he has access to lots of other awful things. people, wake up, he’s just a kid. Obviously this is an pleasurable experience and that’s why he wouldn’t want to stop but you should be firm and you should act because you are his parent and you should make him understand this. you are making the rules. Would you let your kid smoke? If you won’t then why would you let him masturbate? Things are exactly the same. You would force him not to smoke, force him not to masturbate. Talk with him!

 

I do know very well that especially lately there are a lot of children that are doing this thing but this is not acceptable and this is definitely not a normal behavior! Besides, you risk addiction! besides, don’t forget that there’s a possibility of him doing it at school, or in his neighborhood, with some other children or who knows. I think that at least one session with a trained child psychologist would not hurt him at all but vice versa, it might help him a lot.

 

I just want to help and I want all children to be children, to be happy and that their innocence to last a little bit longer…