I think i have some erectile dysfunction problems; i can't reach orgasms even if i ejaculate normally. I don't feel any pleasure anymore while ejaculating. The sexual intercourse itself is good, i am aroused, everything like always, it's just when reaching to the point... nothing happens, the sperm comes out and that's all. And that's very disappointing; my girlfriend says i should visit a doctor. I suppose it's because of the stress lately. Should i really have an appointment?
Can't obtain orgasm even if i ejaculate
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Hey gixxer, your girlfriend is right, you should visit a doctor, there might be an erectile dysfunction problem you have. Unfortunately it is not a problem that can be solved with only knowing the symptoms, you need to take some medical tests to get to the solution. The good part is that that you are able to obtain an erection and keep it for the entire sexual intercourse, i suppose the problem is not serious, however, that could be the first sign, you should pay attention to it. Also, that may affect you psychologically and suppress your sexual appetite, therefore, don't get discouraged and go to a consultation as soon as possible.
Good luck and be healthy!
i had same problem a few times, i talked to my doctor , took a few tests and he sad there's nothing wrong with me from the phisycal point of view. Seems that you have the same issue. At that time i has some problems at work, i lost my job, me and my girlfriend had some trust issues and that could have caused my inability to feel pleasure. We then broke up, it was a hard period for me. Now i am dating a new woman whom i like much and my sexual issues dissapeared. I take levitra to help me a little, i like th eeffects i get with it, but anyways, i think you should try and change something in your relationship, something you are not happy with, visit a doctor just to make sure you're ok and it shoud work out, it worked out for me
Good luck!
Hello everyone, for some time I've also got this problem and I know your feelings. Anyway I assume that it's more a mental issue so we just need to relax and more confidence. As you said you suppose you've been stressed lately - familiar situation for me. We have the same problem after being stressed. I try not to focus on my problem but making my partner feel good and having orgasm (somehow I feel better too). In my opinion we just need to get over it - a mental issue can go away if getting over it. However we all have the same problem and I've started searching some information just as you, also I would like to start enjoying it more and to have that fully orgasm that we all want to. I know how frustrating is not having this pleasure and I'm aware that my sex drive could possible disappear. Anyway, I'd gonna be great if someone could has any major solution for this.
NothingImpossible
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Hey gixxer
Problems with potency is coming from: stress, depression, bad regeneration organism, cigarets,drugs and alcohol.
Well hello, I would like to say that I got this problem myself and I thought I'm the only one. Thank you for your support Khan I feel somehow better when someone tries to help, you might be right about it. I guess that it's a matter of relaxing, mental issue. I have to work on this, who knows? maybe it will help. You don't have some updates? I don't know how to explain this, every time we are basically there and when it comes to the moment.... nothing, like my penis is closing up, or the nerves resposible for the pleasure. It frustrates me... I am able to keep going for 2 hours or more, moving her into different positions but I still can't seem to be able to finish. I have a lot of pleasure, I get hard, I do love my partner and the way she's looking, but no orgasm. Sometimes I think that I would better orgasm in the first 5 minutes, I get jealous when I hear my friends saying that they couldn't last long, at least they had this pleasure. I am feeling like I'm an old man already. I will try something because I do believe there is something mental related, however I guess I will go to check at a doctor's lab. Any updates, anyone who have something, anything would be welcome. thank you.
federico75
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Hello everyone, I am having a similar issue and I do know how you feel.
I believe that alcohol and cigarettes and any other bad habit have its effect on this, but mostly of this is a mental condition. I do believe that for me is also a mental problem that caused it. As many men can relate, the longer you have been married the less and less sex you have, this is my story also. I don't know why women are satisfied with once a year sex after marriage but this is a real problem and a common reason for many divorces. I am also not happy with once a year sex and I don't have any other option than to masturbate. I have to admit that I masturbate often, I guess too often a year and then when the time comes for this "long term waited happiness" I can't have an orgasm nor to ejaculate. Masturbating I find no problem doing it, but having sex I just can't. In my opinion it's my brain that got used to my hand and for a bigger speed than when having sex. This results that it is more and almost all mental.
In my opinion, if we would have more sex and I won't need to masturbate that much there won't be any problems and I would be able to ejaculate and reach an orgasm again with my wife. As I don't see any further changed I don't know if I ever will be able to orgasm with a partner if I don't look for other option. I really want to have my orgasm back again and to stop masturbating like I am a single man. It is really frustrating and I really get upset whenever I remember about it and whenever I have to masturbate in order to reach an orgasm. I am feeling like I'm back in the school. Depressive.
Hello, I am a woman and I date a man with this kind of problem. He have a hard time reaching an orgasm during sex. We are in a relationship for about a year and I'm really concerned that he will broke up with me only because of this problem he has. At first he had reached orgasm few times when we had vaginally sex and sometime when I was doing oral sex with him but still, not evey time. We don't live in the same town so we see only on weekends and rarely during the week, but even so he is unable to reach an orgasm. As I can see, he mentioned that he masturbates a lot, as the majority men here. Now he find it hard to reach an orgasm even when he's masturbating. He also said that it was pretty difficult for him to orgasm with other women he dated before me. I talked to him like a million of times to go to a doctor but he don't want to listen. We always have passionate sex, I think that's because we rarely see each other, but still nothing, at first I thought he was joking when he said he's unable to orgasm. I'm wondering whether he might be gay...?? What can I do for him as his girlfriend to give him this pleasure. It's becoming a real problem and I'm confused since this isn't as common as for women. Please help with anything you've got.
I'm also a woman and my boyfriend had mentioned fwe times something about that when we first got together I was getting too wet and so he was unable to feel anything and it was hard for him to reach his orgasm but now we have been together for 2 years and it hasn't happened for a long time to have problems with reaching an orgasm because he is used to my wetness. Of course, I'm not sure about that but maybe is your women getting really wet too as I did? Also what about your circulation? You know blood circulation is essential in reaching an orgasm? Do you take any medications? Maybe they are responsible for this if you take some? Make sure what kind of medication you take (if you take some) and tell about it your doctor. If nothing helps try some "adrenaline sex". I know it sounds somehow stupid but this helps blood circulation, therefore it is easier to obtain orgasm. Also, stress and nerves can have a bad impact and be responsible for your statement. Try something new, try something you never tried and sooner or later you're going to find an answer. I really hope it's not your health and don't be ashamed to ask for some professional help if you need some.
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'deidaru'
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I am 40 years old male and I have the same problem with delayed ejaculation. I am going to write down some of those things that made me understand this problem a little bit better and that really helped me to overcome it. I do know how painful it can be so I would be really glad if this information would help somebody. Well, firstly, in my opinion a helpful thing would be to think about an orgasm as the result of an honest excitement. People who are having a low libido they are not as interested in sex so this doesn’t make it as excited about sex. Obviously, this is a problem and depending on how bad is this problem it makes it harder to achieve an orgasm. Well, I guess the question would be what is driving the libido? One of the biggest drivers of libido is hormonal balance. As we are getting older, the testosterone levels (I’m going to use T) are declining and it falls out of the youthful balance. Along with it, the libidos are also declining. Besides aging there’s a lot of other factors such as (these ones would help) low cholesterol diets, regular exercise, statins etc. there are others that can make it even worse: smoking, drinking, doing drugs and so on. Well, depending on your lifestyle, it affects your T levels as well as your libido.
For these kind of problem there are treatments, and medicinal and natural. Similar to any other treatment, there are some tradeoffs. In my opinion, those people who are experiencing these problem should check their T levels first of all. Now, I’m telling you from my own experience: do not go for an Endocrinologist doctor for it. Instead you should better go for a doctor that is more specialized in low testosterone levels. Trust me. besides the physical libido, there are a lot of other possible drivers of achieving excitement during the sex. Such things as different positions, variety, fantasies and a lot of other creativities. By the way, that’s the reason why men tend to cheat more than women. Variety. In fact, anything that can elevate your excitement for having sex. Regardless of what is that, you should try to make it real.
However, there’s the other part of the coin: everything that is slowing down your excitement during sex you should avoid and minimize. Such things can be lack of stamina, inflexibility, stress or whatever takes away from excitement. You should pay attention to it because these things could be very subtle. Nowadays, in the world of an immediate access to porn whenever and everywhere you want, the overconsumption of it can lead to some consequences such as unrealistic fantasies of sex or idealistic sex. Or, as I said, there’s the other part of the coin, it can lead to a better way of enjoying sex when it occurs in real life. Well, there can be a mechanical explanation to it. In my opinion, masturbation certainly has something of the blame. A lot of people should understand that a vagina is not the same thing as the un lubed hand. It depends on how aggravated is your problem but masturbation should be modified, reduced or even stopped all over. I personally have had big success when I have done it. Anyway, the root of this problem depends on the sensitivity of your penis and the vaginal arousal. I have noticed that whenever I cannot achieve an orgasm naturally it seems that the problems are coming from due to the fact that I cannot sense my glans. I have also noticed that when I have a break from the masturbation it increases the chances of vaginal orgasm, however, it doesn’t seem to be (from my own experience) a permanent fix. Obviously, I cannot tell you for sure but this break from the masturbation is elevating the excitement only temporarily because of depravation but it cannot permanently fix it because of those entire years of nerve damage of your penis from the hard core manual activity. Doubtless, there was a time when I was masturbating and I was able to orgasm naturally but with time this changed and this change made me less sensitive, unfortunately.
So, I guess, that in the end the biggest question is how to restore the sensivity that is gone over the years? In my opinion we have to do a lot of work that must be done in order to have success. When I was searching information about this I found out about some several different methods for increasing the feeling and I found out some magic creams to some cold or hot regimens. Anyway, I cannot tell you anything because I barely know something about these options and their effectiveness. I also read that exists some physical therapy techniques for some people with nerve damage that can apply here too. I really hope that this information would help at least somebody. If you find out something new I would also be glad to know about it. we should stick together all the information we have.
Wow…. That’s pretty sad that this thread has been seen so many times and it has been here for so long but there still aren’t any certain answers upon what it is that and how to cure it. obviously, I cannot be sure about what you’re talking about, but from what you have been describing I guess that it is Delayed Orgasm or at least it sounds like it is so. Delayed Orgasm (you can google it for more information) is a medical condition that might be caused by 2 things, it is either a damage to the nervous tissue of the penis or it might also be a poor development of the penis. It is a form of ED, there are much of them. An Urologist or an ED specialist (which often is the same person) must be able to confirm medically in case you are suffering from this condition Delayed Orgasm or you are suffering from a different problem, however… unfortunately, in case it is the Delayed Orgasm then there aren’t much of reliable treatments for this at the moment.
Anyway, in case you are able to achieve an orgasm with difficulty when you are masturbating (but you still can do it) but it is even more harder or even impossible to achieve an orgasm during the intercourse then you might want to look to some additional stimulants as they might be really helpful for your condition. Maybe this helps.