do you know if there is any possible way to recover from PTSD? I have a friend that have been traumatized when she was a little girl by a group of boys and since that day she feels a lot of pain and this situation changed all her entire life, she is a very introvert person and I’m the only friend that she has. We’ve been friends since she was 5 that’s why she can talk to me and she can open up about all her feelings. I’m 26 and she is 24, I have never thought that her problem would be so seriously and would last so much time, I started to think more about this some months ago when I wanted to present her to one friend. She has never had a boyfriend because she is afraid and even though I do understand it, I think that this is really a bad thing and I would like to change this, I mean to help her a little bit. I have read so many articles about this thing and I found out that there are so many people that live with this disorder for all their life… I don’t want to see her like this forever; she deserves to be loved and to have a family. I’m engaged and I see that she is very happy for me but I know that she is not able to have a relation.. she is 24 years old and she has never been kissed… this is ridiculous. She is a very beautiful girl and she has an amazing character, but every time a boy want to talk with her she rejects all of them away. One day she told me that there was a guy that talked with her and she liked him but she was so scared that rejected him too like any other. I don’t know what to do and I’m asking for help.. how can I help her, I would like to do at least something, at least to help her to find the love that she deserves… I’m really desperate and I know that she is more desperate than me… even though maybe he doesn’t know it.
desperate for my friend’s PTSD
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hello there.. of course there are a lot of things that can be done in order to help her, but I think that you can’t do this by your own, you need professional help. There are a lot of steps that are required and I know that as soon as she will find a professional help as better it will be. I don’t know how many years passed from the day that it have happened but I hope but I hope she would get better soon. I know that she is your friend and that you want to help but the only thing that you can do is to support her and to encourage her. I’m sorry to disappoint you about this but you can’t help her at the professional level. I suppose that she lives with her parents, that’s why the only thing that you can do now is to talk with them about the situation and to find a good psychiatrist. Anyway don’t try to talk with her about this, usually people like her negate to accept help and don’t want to talk with anybody except people that they know since they were little, like parents, like you.. but I think you know about this very well. I would like you to understand that not all the time something change, and personally I think that people like her can’t totally get rid of it, I really hope that I’m wrong but this is very hard when it comes to something mental. I hope that soon you’ll find the right way and you’ll help her to go on without this pain.
hey, actually I think that you can help her and that there are many possibilities to help her. First of all to find a good psychologist that will be able to be with her till the end, till she will start to be okay and the disorder will disappear completely. There are also some things that you can do for her, there are 2 books that helped me very much in such a situation and I have learned a lot from it. I can’t assure you that she will want to read it and to do the things that are required that’s why you have to be ready to help her. You can read the books for her and to do the same meditations and exercises with her, this why she will be able to feel more protected and secure. So the books are Trauma Releasing Exercises by David Berceli and the second one is Waking the tiger by Peter Levine.
I really hope that this can help her and hope that soon she’ll find the man of her life 
good luck to both of you and quick recovery.
thank you very much for all the advices and I will try to find a good specialist for her and I hope that she will feel better. I know she trust me and I know that she would like to forget about all this pain and to live normally but she is afraid. The books are a good idea, I love reading and I think that this way I’ll be able to do at least something for her. She is very sweet and I love her very much. Hope this will work. Thanks again
Hi, I’m a therapist and I can add some information if you are interested; first of all you have to know that recovering is depending from person to person and it’s better to starts soon and to pass over different therapies. Sometimes people recover after some months other times they need years to be okay or to at least feel a little better. There are a lot of things to do: yoga, meditation different exercises and other things that can be done in order to help. I can’t say now precisely what would be better for her, because I need to see her, to hear all the story to talk with her and with her parents in order to find out what would be the best way to help her. but she really needs help and it is a very good idea that you’ve decided to ask for some. You’re a good friend.