I have lost my clitoral and vaginal sensation

[Madison30]

Hello everyone, I want to let you know what is going on with me and if someone will help me, that is going to be great! Just leave your comments if you have something for me. So, I'm 30 years old female, generally in good shape and healthy. Recently, to be honest, for about a year, I started having some issues with my clitoral and vaginal sensitivity and I think I am way too young to have this kind of problem or to be sexually malfunctioning.

 

There's something I think it is connected with this problem: I remember always feeling as if I had to urinate during intercourse and masturbation but I do not feel all this now, however I do feel the need to urinate after I am finished - I just want to let you know everything I got and maybe in this way is going to be easier to find an answer because I am so frustrated with not having any answers even though I have visited more than one doctor. To be more specific I visited three doctors and none of them could help me. They have done tests on me to make sure I don't have any infections and the results were negative. After the tests they all said the same thing: that I should speak to a psychologist, but I know that I don't need it, I don't feel like I have a mental issue. I just know my body and what I like and how it used to feel and what it should feel like. It is somehow hard to explain. Well, all this is very sad for me because I was always very easily aroused both vaginally and clitorally and now I'm just not. I was always able to reach orgasm by myself by clitoral stimulation from the time I was around only 16 years old and I even could ejaculate by myself. I learned very easy how to multiply orgasm and how to easily reach an orgasm during intercourse with a man. Orgasm wasn't a problem for me at all, I can say it was my hobby. Everything changed because I wasn't masturbated for six months as well as not having sexual intercourse with a man due to no relationship. Well, six months ago I found this man and having sex with him I felt that something isn't right, after that I tried to masturbate by myself and again the same. I can be the same easily aroused as I used to be, my body can produce lubrication as it used and my brain knows that I'm going to feel good soon, but in reality I'm not, physically it feels everything different and I'm not feeling as I should. In the past I could reach an orgasm within few minutes, now I am not as easily aroused during clitoral stimulation and I barely can feel something during intercourse.

 

I'm very frustrated now and I really want my sensation back, when once I could reach an orgasm within few minutes now it takes a whole life. I know that it is not a mental issue and I know that I don't have any infections. If someone knows why I'm having this and how to return back my sensitivity, please leave a comment.

 

[IsabelIsabel2]

Hello Madison, do you have some updates? I came across your posts and I'm really interested in it. Is here someone who can help us out? I'm having a similar sort of thing so I would like to get some answers no less than you. Even though I'm having the same thing my reason is a little different. Well, I have PCOS and I don't menstruate regularly. Not so long ago I got off the birth controll pill and after not getting my periods at all for some time I had this loss of the overall sensation on my vagina. I got back on the birth control pill but my problem is still there. I have dryness and I have lost my sensation. I'm very concerned that this can be forever because I have almost 0% of sensation I once had. Exactly as you, I can feel something, it is not numb, but I can barely feel it. Because of this problem I have that it is ruining my sexual life I have no sex drive and therefore it leads to relationship problems. Well, I can say that it is ruining my entire life and I have no idea what can I do about it. What makes me upset is that I have always knew what I have to do to reach an orgasm. I have always been able to reach the orgasm I want because I know my body very well. I have never had a problem reaching an orgasm by clitoral stimulation on my own, now it seems impossible to me. Anyway, for some reasons doctors think that I am completely normal and healthy and I have no reason to worry. I think you, Madison and every woman who is suffering from this, can understand me why I can't be patient. I have never suffered from something like this before and in general I haven't had any major issues down there. By the way I am 30 years old too, maybe some unknown to us changes is happening to us at this stage of life? Maybe it is going to pass soon? I really hope so because this is life ruining problem!

 

[whatwife]

I have had, or I can say that I still have the same problem! For me it started in my middle 30s so I decided I need to change something in order to get back my sensation and my orgasms. I have had some bad eating habits and I was smoking so my only logical explanation was that I'm having this issue due to them. I came to this conclusion after I have visited a doctor and he said that he doesn't see anything wrong with me. However something wasn't normal because I was right about bad habits and smoking. I'm not 100% sure but I think that smoking was my biggest enemy because after I quit it I felt changes and I could feel something down there. I have got back my sex drive and I'm able again to orgasm. Generally things got better for me. However I felt much better before having this issue, I'm trying to say that when I have an orgasm there's a lot of less sensation than I used to have once. The orgasm is the same, blood flows, tension, and contractions but that intensity feeling is missing. I don't really know but it was much better before all this. Again I went to the doctor telling him that I got back some of my sensation but I still have a problem and the same result, he couldn't help me with anything. I'm not a doctor so I don't know but I personally think it is nerve damage... or it could be from smoking? What do you think? Ladies you have you ever smoke? If you don't then I guess that my smoking has nothing to do with my problem? This is strange...

 

[CHUkue]

I have the same issue and I'm doing anything necessary just to get back my clitoral and vaginal sensation. I also have another issue: I get quite a bit of pain if my cervix is touched during intercourse as well as pain in uterus area after intercourse. However, the main issue started when I was 21 years old and I was pregnant. I don't really know if my pregnancy has something to do with this but it occurred during that time so I assume that they are connected between. I am now 24 years old and since then I periodically decreased my sensations so now I have lost almost all the sensitivity I used to have. This problem is interfering with my personal life because I have now lost my sex drive. I have almost no clitoral or nipple sensation. I would to anything just to have it back, there was a time when I was easily turned on by nipple sensation and easily reached the orgasms by clitoral stimulation but now I'm baaaaarely turned on and I reached my last orgasm many months ago. I have seen my gyne and a private specialist but none of them could provide me with any answers so I decided I need to ask someone else. Not so long ago I have visited a chiropractor who has done a lower lumbar MRI to see if my problem is neurological but it seems that it is not because again - the results came back absolutely normal. However he referred me to a hormone specialist. Now I finally got back my hope that I'm going to feel normal again. This doctor said that this is a common problem with people with PCOS and he said that he will do anything to help me. He said that he is going to start to test all my hormone levels and then he is going to give me some meds to help regulate me out and this should help me feel normal back again. I really really hope this is going to help me out. I suggest you people to go visit a hormone specialist too and maybe you'll get your relief too. Good luck ladies and be strong! We're going to make through this!

 

[DirtyDiana]

Wow, I never thought that there are other women suffering from loss of clitoral and vaginal sensation, I thought that this is something abnormal and that I’m the only one struggling with this nightmare. I have been a widow for the last seven years and a half now since my husband left me. well, having lack of sex I was having only masturbation in all these years (I’ve had two partners and very few sex). Well, orgasms were always easy to achieve and I never had a problem with that, I could have an orgasm in less than five minutes and my orgasms were always very intense. I never used any machinery as I never needed them, I could have my orgasms very quickly and very intense using only my fingers. Anyway, for about one year or so I have lost my clitoral and vaginal sensation almost completely. Now, I am having much less sensation down there, the difference is huge! It feels like my vagina is numb! Yeah, I am still getting aroused but it takes like forever to reach an orgasms and whenever I reach one (yeah, it happens but rarely) it’s like on mute. I don’t know all this all means so I went to my urologist who said that I might have a nerve damage or something. He thinks that this is related to nerves because I have herniated disks and I am struggling in pains. After that I started to search online and I read that there is a condition that they call it “cauda equina syndrome”. I read there that one of the symptoms of this condition is called saddle anesthesia which means that there is lack or even complete numbness of sensation in vagina, anus and buttocks. Well, in the entire undercarriage. As I can see, I obviously have this saddle anesthesia which makes me think that I can have that “cauda equina syndrome”. I will talk to my doctor so I will get an MRI to confirm this. if it’s so then I hope that my doctor knows what I need to do to get rid of it and to have my sensation back. When I’ll have my MRI and if I get some answers I will let you all know about this. maybe there is a cure for our condition and we don’t know yet about it. just want to wish you good luck to all of you and that I can relate your pains. Hope we’ll be alright!

 

[noneed]

I am basically having the exact same issues as a lot of people that have posted above here, however my problem seem to be a bit different from yours. I am very sorry that so much time has passed since the first poster has posted this but there are still no responses on what we can do in order to receive back the vaginal sensation. My biggest problem is that I am only 22 years old and I don’t want to live like this for the rest of my life. I have lost my virginity when I was 16 years old (yeah, I know… too young). The point is that I haven’t lost my vaginal sensation, it is that I have never had it. I don’t know what it is that to have an orgasm (well, I do know, but I never have felt it) and my libido has always been very low therefore, sex has never been a priority or something like this in my life. in fact, to be fully honest, sex for me was something that would keep my relationships going on…

 

Now, I have been dating with a man for one year and I am extremely attracted to him and I also can say that I am very deeply in love with him, however, I am still not having absolutely no sexual wishes, urges, pleasures etc etc. and this is why I am not able to reach an orgasm. In fact, I am barely enjoying sex and I know very well that this is not right, I know that this is a problem and if left unsolved that it can lead to bigger problems…

 

Trust me that I have tried to do something about it. I have read and I have asked and heard a lot of times the way to reach an orgasm is to teach yourself on how to have it. I have tried this theory as well as a lot others, however, I am just simply not able to stimulate myself enough  so nothing is happening. I am have no arousal regardless of how bad I am trying. This is not right, I want to change it because I am rarely feeling any sensations at all during sex. Well, I can feel him inside me of course, however, I cannot say that I am feeling good, which doesn’t attract me to have sex at all. as I said, I am now having sex only to make my partner happy (I do understand very well that without sex there isn’t a relationship) and I want to feel him close to me. I really want to please him but I know that I am not doing it the way I should really do it. this is why I want to be able to be an active participant to sex, to enjoy it as much as my partner is enjoying it… this is a big problem and I don’t know what to do. please somebody post an answer. I really need it.