pleasure for an impotent man!

[BlueEyes81]

hello every one I have a very delicate question about man’s sexual health. To make you understand why I’m asking this I need to share you some information. So, here is my story. Everything started some months ago when I changed my work. I have met a really wonderful man and I liked him very much. He is 51 years old and even if I’m 34 I like him really a lot. I have found out that he is divorced and that he is alone now and I decided that it’s a great moment to start a new relationship. Quite a month ago I have found out that he likes me too. He is the director of the firm I am working for (I mention: I DON’T like him because of this, I like him as a man!) and when I found out that he liked me I tried to do everything in order to obtain a little time for us. Everything started 3 weeks ago when we for the first time got alone in his cabinet. He locked the door and we started to kiss. He is a really good kisser and a very gentle lover. He kissed me all over, he kissed my lips, my neck, my hips, my breast, and he was really tender with me.

 

I expected that after some minutes of kisses we will have sex but this didn’t happened.  For the first time I thought that maybe he feels bad because the place wasn’t adequate for having sex and maybe because he was worried that somebody will find out. After some days this happened again, and again I observed that the only thing that he did was to touch me and to kiss me everywhere.  Besides this I observed that when I try to touch his penis he does something in order to change the position and to avoid this. The second attempt passed the same way as the first one. At the begging I started to think that maybe I’m the problems and that he can’t excite because of me but after some days I just checked his computer history and I have found out that he is looking for Viagra and other types of drugs that are able to simulate his libido. I understood that there is something wrong and that he has an erectile dysfunction problem.

 

This doesn’t mean that I don’t like him anymore; I like him even if he has these problems (and I do understand that – he is 51…), but actually I would like to do something for this. I can’t tell him that I have found this in his history, we aren’t so close to share all these things with each other and if I’m going to tell him that I’ve been looking through his personal stuff this may lead to an unpleasant situation. but I’m here because I would like to find out if there is possible to do something in order to make him feel something even if he has this problem? This is very important for me and I don’t want to lose this relation with him. Please help with you can. I thought about asking him if he has some erectile issues but… as you can understand this is not a proper way to start a discussion. What I need to do??? how do I need to react? I’m not against ED medications but how do I let him know about this?

 

[James Leftie]

I think that you have to try more times to do this. It’s strange that he is trying to have sex with you even if he knows that he can’t do this. In my opinion there is something else.  I think that it could be linked with the fact that he is divorced and maybe for a long time he didn’t had any sexual relations. Try to excite him through other things for example with sexy underwear.  The thing that he is looking for a Viagra this doesn’t mean this he has some dysfunctions.  There are a lot of men that use Viagra in their life in order to create a regular healthy sexual life.  This could be also stress that’s why I think that he is trying to have sex with you but it’s a little bit more difficult to settle on the normal sexual life again.

 

So in conclusion I think that he need just some time to change it and to understand that he can start a sexual life again without worries. Maybe he have had many problems with his ex wife and I think that you have to stay relaxed because everything is okay until he is trying to do something for this. I’m sure that he is trying. Maybe he searched for ED meds when he noticed that he can’t erect with you. and maybe that’s because he’s stressed because of work, or his previous wife or god knows what. the point is that everything you need to do is to try for him and he is going to try for you.

 

[BlueEyes81]

Thank you for your advice, I didn’t thought about this and I think that this is really an important information for me. Yes, you’re right that he is trying to do something for this and I’ll try to help him with everything I can. I really hope that soon we will have our first intercourse, I really really like him.

 

[SamualSims]

don’t worry about this, he is looking for Viagra and this means that he is ready to have sex with you. This is the most important thing.  There could be also a problem linked with his health. My husband has had such a problem when he has had a blood pressure issues and he was on some medications that influenced his erectile function.  We tried many times to have sex but this was really difficult without Viagra. After he finished the medication everything was back in place and now we used Viagra just sometimes when he feels that he is not able to have a long sexual contact. Just don’t worry and let everything go as it goes. After all, if you won’t have sex for a while and when it would become a serious problem he is going to tell you everything.

 

[BlueEyes81]

As far as I know he is a very healthy person. I have never seen him using any types of medications, I enter his cabinet at least 15 times per day but I have never observed any types of medication.

 

He practices sport regularly and many other people that work here for more than 10 years told me that he is very strong and that they never seen him sick or using meds.

 

I have a friend here and I asked her some information about him. She never mentioned something about health. I like him a lot, and trust me he really looks amazing for his 51 years, he is like a body builder with broad shoulders and he is very tall. He looks like he’s the same age as I am.