Hi, I have a question for you all, what does an orgasm feel like? I have problem with this and I never had an orgasm, so I was wondering how it really feels? I don't need explanations like "it feels very good, it's so amazing" and all kind of this empty, non-sense explanation. I want to know how I would explain if I ever had one and how to know if it will happen??? How I would feel? I've got already answers like "oh, you will just know" so thanks, but I need something else please. I don't know what’s wrong with me, maybe because I'm 19 and I'm too young?? I do feel good during sex because believe me, my boyfriend is doing a very good job, but I just keep to complex him continuously whenever he asks me if I had an orgasm... I don't know what to think; maybe we are doing something wrong? Or I'm personally doing something wrong? Is there something we / I can do to reach one? What we need to change? Please I want to reach orgasm so bad!!! It is ruining my relationship!!! All advices are welcome; I'm ready to try everything!
Orgasm problem
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Hey kristen33, I saw your new post so I think you have a more serious problem than this.
Anyway I will try to answer your questions and hope that my information will somehow help you further. I know different women who also had problems reaching orgasm not because they or their partners were doing something wrong, simply because it's hard for some women to reach it, I think you are one of them if you both are doing everything alright. These women hadn’t their first orgasm masturbating neither by themselves nor during sex with their partner but with the help of a vibrator. After first orgasm it is much easier to get them and normally you should be able to orgasm during sex.
What does an orgasm feel like and how you will be able to recognize when you will have one? Many women have been answering these questions in "2 words": tension and pressure. An orgasm is build up on them. You will feel tension all over your body, even losing breath for some seconds then a release of pressure of about 10-20 seconds will let you know for sure you had an orgasm. Also, after an orgasm your intimate zone is very sensible to touch for few minutes and it is a little harder to pee (usually, women want to pee after it).
Hope this information was helpful for you and your relationship 
Have a great time you 2 and be healthy!
Hello kristen, i am having the same as you. i think that for every women its different. me and my boyfriend, as you, think that we are doing something wrong that's why I can't reach one. I heard that we could have this problem because of G spot which is on our inner wall closest to our bladder. As MBernic said, I also heard that an orgasm is built of tension and a great release of pressure that cut your breath off. I never thought and never tried an vibrator so thank you for your advice, I am afraid that this won't upset my boyfriend, you know... it's kind of offensive I think for him. As you I know for sure that my boyfriend is doing everything right and that frustrates me the most because I understand if he won't... I think that I will be able to identify an orgasm if I finally have one, thank you one more time MBernic for hoping a good recommendation. kristen I will keep in touch with you if it will help, do the same please. have a great day you two and good luck
emilia22as
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Hi, I'm really sorry for you two and for the rest of the girls who cannot have this pleasure and I hope that one day you will find out how to do and what exactly to do to achieve it. I am enjoying this and I can help answering some of your questions. When we, women, are fooling around and play getting exited in our genitals and all over our body is building up tension responsible for faster heart beat and breathing change - I assume that you knew that. When we have the orgasm is because all that accumulated tension feels as if it explodes all at once in our genitals. After that you can feel heat waves spreading all over your body which are responsible for the pleasure. All this happens for few seconds (it depends - all women are different) and you may lose a little control over your body during that time: you can start moving your legs involuntary and you can move your head back (you probably saw that on porn - this is an involuntary move). Clitoris is the most nervous point in the whole human body and it's the central point of getting an orgasm (that is why there are many cases when a penis size doesn’t matter). You have to rub it until it all comes out, better do it by yourself first time - he doesn't feel what you do and he cannot know exactly what and how do you want in those moments. You don't have to worry if you will feel the orgasm or no - you will.